Celibate Gay Men Are Significantly More at Risk of Suicide
Unlike, I gather, a lot of queer resource tumblrs, I follow a bunch of religious tumblrs too, and a bunch of blogs that focus on the intersection of the two topics. Which means…
OMG. Shut up. Shut up. Shut up with your bullshit.
The points made in the OP are relevant and important. Quibbling over the amount of data used is apparently way more important to you than acknowledging that suicide is a major, major, major fucking issue for queer people, and here specifically gay men. It only takes a little emotional intelligence to recognise that an irresponsibly, decontextually applied asexual narrative could have a major impact on vulnerable young men. This is not about actual asexuality, but about asexual dialogue being used to justify (or promote) celibacy - the potentials for abuse of that are massive, particularly within a context where there is a ‘love the sinner, hate the sin’ ethos (or where one, like a queer youth, may have that background and still be processing shit around that when they access projects that use asexuality materials). And denying/repressing genuine desire is a form of self-imposed isolation and it has been demonstrated over and over isolation is a major factor in queer youth suicide.
I dont’ think the unbrokencircle is sending out bullshit. I think she’s pointing out legitimate limitations in a study with a very small sample size, and legitimate caution on should take in drawing conclusions.
To the extent that I think she’s wrong, it’s because I think it’s because she doesn’t agree that ~good data~ is incredibly challenging to get on a topic (does homosexual repression cause emotional distress/suicide) that is so vague, and where you can’t rely on self-reporting, so that people are forced to rely on interpreting the data, and making cautious, hesitant, conclusions from correlations. And that’s normal and to be expected in the social sciences.
This is just my thought. Because too much of the obsession about homosexuality and Christianity occurs in the Evangelical “Bible-only” world we become over obsessed with arguing about those dreadful clobber verses. But I think that’s giving too much ground. Demonstrating to me that Scriptural sexual mores exclude gay sex doesn’t prove anything. So what, we’ve rejected most of the household codes and sexual ethics of the New Testament anyways. We’re never gonna move towards a comprehensive sexual ethic if we keep getting bogged down there. The reality is that unless an Evangelical’s biblicism and adherence to inerrancy or infallibility breaks, they’re not going change their mind. This issue runs right to the core of our epistemology; is truth simply rooted in a literal interpretation of Scripture which we are bound to always follow or is it more complicated? Which is why I can recognize that if Im talking to someone that is convinced the Earth is 6,000 years old, that every creature was saved by a flood on a marvellous little boat, and that Moses wrote the Pentateuch, there is no point whatsoever in even trying to discuss homosexuality or anything like that.
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Rev. Bonnie Perry. Also a lesbigay, also a priest.
Sometimes knowing tumblr is full of kids makes me roll my eyes and sometimes it makes me feel really protective. If your pastor, or your mom, or you dad, or your youth leader or some guy on television is telling you that you need to overcome your same sex desires because there is no way for you to live as a Christian and be queer. They’re wrong, because they know not the scripture nor the power of God.
Welcome Emma’s Revolution to the world.
We named Emma after Emma Goldman & the band “Emma’s Revolution”.
“If I can’t dance I don’t want to be in your revolution,” said Emma Goldman (1869-1940), feminist heroine, anarchist activist, editor, writer, teacher, jailbird and general trouble-maker.
I mean seriously - this girl is AWESOME. One of my most favorite tumblr’ersss
Of course you should always name alpacas after bands, because alpacas are nature’s interpretation of a shy hipster in a band.
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- Society assures me that my sexual identity is real and that people like me exist.
- When disclosing my sexual identity to others, they believe it without requiring me to prove it.
- I can feel sure that upon disclosing my sexual identity, people accept that it’s my…
Uuuum exclusively homosexual people are not privileged over bisexuals. I am not doubly oppressed because I like guys too. That doesn’t even make sense. This list is ridiculous and just a tad offensive.
/a bisexual woman
it’s not about being “doubly” oppressed. there is no hierarchy of oppression because no one can measure whether someone’s oppression is worse than someone else’s. this list is pointing out things that bisexual folks have to deal with that “monosexual” folks (for lack of a better word) don’t have to deal with, in regard to this identity specifically. if you are bisexual and these don’t apply for you, or you disagree, that is fine and likely. however, many bisexual folks do experience these things daily, and they are valid and real.
Except not everything needs to be about privilege and oppression, and by saying that gay/lesbian people oppress us with their ~monosexual privilege~ you ARE creating a hierarchy. How would you like it if a gay person made a bisexual privilege checklist? You’d probably throw a fit. But whatever, I’ve had this argument many times before and I doubt I’m going to change your mind.
oh my god is this still actually happening? everyone who just parrots “there is no hierarchy of oppressions!” and “oppression olympics!” was in need of a serious intervention before they even started talking. and everyone who thinks you can talk about homophobia and “biphobia” as though they are just mystical forces out there floating independently of each other need to realize that patriarchy is not a fantasy novel. these are not evil gods with names and personalities, they are just logics of the same power structure.
after more years of being bi than some tumblr users have been alive, it sure is news to me that i’m specifically oppressed for being reasonably capable of attraction to the (roughly) half of the human population that heterosexism wants me to be.
oops i mean ME ME ME ME ME IT’S ALL ABOUT ME AND MY ERASURE PAY ATTENTION TO MEEEE ;_;
At first I thought, “Wow. I should just be all ~*~biphobic~*~ and refuse to date or hang out with bisexuals in order to avoid encountering someone who things like this.”
But then I remember that I already have a policy of not dating teenagers, or adults who have retained the insufferable narcissism and special-snowflake-itus that most people grow out of by the time they are no longer teenagers.
So, problem solved.
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