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Doting Doctor Dad Keeps Daughter Sexy With Breast Implants, Botox

I’m sad for this woman that she feels that way, but angry that she said it in public and without thinking about what it implies for everyone else who might be considered “fat and ugly.” Like because I am fat and don’t have whatever trendy facial features are in right now, I did my (beautiful, btw) kids some kind of disservice in bringing them into the world? And yeah, it’s hard being “fat and ugly” but you know, that’s not all there is to a person. Madeleine Albright has done alright for herself, to name just one of many examples of smart, accomplished women who are not “lookers” that I could start listing. Maybe when you are fat and ugly, you have permission to opt out of being superficial and vain, and to live a “life of the mind” like men are permitted? hmmmmm…

(via lilacturtl)

Y’know the best thing my mom ever did for me when I was a chubby little girl was to make sure I knew that my physical appearance didn’t define my worth.  She used to say, “Do you think the women who win the nobel prize care about what their thighs look like?” and as an adult, I know they probably do.  But as a little kid, I’m so glad she gave me the message that people of substance don’t rank women by appearance.

And now that I’m writing this I’m thinking people are probably going to boo hoo my mom and her mom privilege for “shaming” women who just can’t help but obsess about their body and goddamn am I sick of that too.  One of the reasons that it’s hard for women to stop hating their bodies is that even in (okay, jezebel’s version of) feminist spaces women are encouraged to constantly vocalize their body hatred.